A Bug and A Wish Conflict Resolution for Elementary School Children
A Bug and A Wish Conflict Resolution for Elementary School Children
Our school counselor recently employed a great method in class that she called A Bug and A Wish Conflict Resolution. I'm sure she didn't mention 'conflict resolution' to the kids, but you get the point. And if, like me, A Bug and A Wish Conflict Resolution is new to you it's a very effective method using 'I' statements to find common ground when faced with conflict. The standard statement goes like this: "It Bugs me when you do this, I Wish you would do that."
Picture using A Bug and A Wish tool when someone cuts in the lunch line, takes a ball from a group of playing kids, or a class interruption by a rowdy student. It's easy to see where practicing I statements can work wonders. 'It bugs me when you cut the line when I'm standing there and I wish you would stop doing it because it bothers me and makes me feel like you're better than I am.' Or something like this!
Make your own A Bug and A Wish Tools
There are endless creative tools to create your A Bug and A Wish tools, but we've shown a basic version here that our kids have used really well to bring some peace to our dinner table setting routine, trash can removal and more.
Here's what you need to make your own A Bug and A Wish Tools
- popsicle stick or tongue depressor
- paper
- markers, crayons or colored pencils
- black ink pen or sharpie to write lines and trace the bug and star
Here's what you do to make your own A Bug and A Wish Tools
Start by outlining or tracing from our printed image here or use this template onto the paper.
Color the bug and star.
Cut out and glue to stick.
Put them to work and practice using I statements as in 'it bugs me when you do this, I wish you would please do that.'
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